There are certain red flags to look for on a first date that show someone might not be a good fit for you. Demanding you pay over R1000 for their meal might be one of them.
Reddit user CuteBananaMuffin on Saturday shared a post on the subreddit r/ChoosingBeggars titled "Well... There goes the 'friendship' with her" in which he said his date did just that.
The thread consists of the text exchange between the Reddit user and his date after the first time they met. He sent her a message asking her if she wanted to go out again and received the response: "After what you did last time you expect me to go out with you again? Wow."
He asked what he did wrong, and she responded that she'd had to pay for her own meal.
He said he hadn't paid because his date had ordered lobster and an 80 euro (R1,279) bottle of wine, totalling 110 euros (R1,759), while his meal only cost 17.50 euros (R279).
"And you were really expecting me to pay that?" he said. "I'm a student not your sugar daddy."
"Wow you are so rude!!!!" she responded. "I'm never going out with you ever again, if you can't pay for a girl's food then why accepting [sic] the invite[?]"
She added that "gentleman ALWAYS pay for girl's [sic] food."
She went on to say he'd wanted only to have sex with her. He replied that of course he did, but he realized he "might not have €20 (R320) for that."
The Reddit user told Bored Panda that he usually pays the whole bill on a date, but as a student, 110 euros was far too much for his budget, as he works 60 hours a week to pay for food and books.
"The date was fun at first until she started talking about another guy and how much he liked him, but I thought, 'Let's eat, talk, and leave,' since she's into another guy, and it all crumbled when it came to the bill," he said. "She was shocked that I let her pay. She didn't say anything at the time, but from her facial expression I realized she was furious."
In the comments on Reddit, one user said: "Anyone that expects that royalty treatment is not someone you want in your life. Good move." Another said the exchange "Gives women a bad name."
"Lobster!!" another user said. "Would loved to have seen her face when the bill arrived and you said lets [sic] pay for our own food. She tried a fast one there."
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